Your life will be so much easier, smoother, and better If you stop trying to fix your husband. I understand you see the greatness inside of him, or you just want him to stop doing some of the foolish things that drive you crazy. But, there are a couple of things you need to understand. Especially if he has a victim mentality and doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.
There are people in this world who are accustomed to being the victim. They’re accustomed to letting life happen to them. They’re accustomed to playing the blame game.
If you take your husband off of your shoulders and stop trying to fix him, you’ll realize your life would be so much easier. You can lead him to water. The helpmate in you wants to tell him how wonderful he is and how magical the world would be. Showing him his potential and trying to convince him to do better can be stressful.
You believe their life would dramatically transform if they would just change specific habits and behaviors. But until they get sick and tired of being sick and tired, there’s nothing that you can say or do.
Matthew 10:14 says If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. Now of course I am not giving you permission to leave your husband right now. But, some people have to experience consequences for their actions in order for them to learn.
God knows what he is doing. They are his child. God knows how to handle your spouse. Even if you feel like your spouse is getting away with insanity. Give him back to God and allow God to deal with them.
Stop using all of your energy trying to get your husband to do what you feel is best. Dust your feet off and take back your peace. Focus on God and pray for your husband’s deliverance.