Many wives are struggling with their ability to calm their emotions. Why? Because many wives are focusing on outside forces and things that are going on around them. They believe if they control what is going on around them, then they will be able to calm their emotions. They believe inner peace is based on what is going on around them. But, this isn’t true.
What does internal peace mean for you? Does it mean a place of sanctuary where you can come home from stressful situations and find that place of safety away from the ‘cares of the world’? Does it mean a place where you can be yourself without the facade many of us wear throughout the day so that people won’t know how we really feel? Or is this place (often our home) one more place where we need to defend ourselves from the ongoing onslaught of anger, fear, inconsistencies, and instability that are so often a part of our daily lives?
Experiencing inner peace is completely based on your ability to regulate and calm your emotions. Your ability to accept your truth and honor what you are feeling directly affects the amount of peace you experience when life gets chaotic.
Here Are Practical Steps to Calm Your Emotions Emotions:
You may have been harried for so long that you are out of touch with how you feel. A situation will present itself and you might ‘flip out’ and find it unbelievable that you have lost control. This actually results from a build-up of emotions that you have not been aware of.
No one makes you feel anything; rather you choose how you think and feel based on what you interpret the situation to be. Blaming others gives away your power and when you feel like a ‘victim’ you react with anger and resentment.
Finding a ‘safe place’ where you are able to express feelings without anyone judging you provides an opportunity to release pent-up emotions.
You are not supposed to be perfect and learning to accept yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses creates feelings of peace within.
Judging yourself means thinking you have to be perfect and creates feelings of not being ‘good enough.’ When feeling inadequate you judge yourself harshly and no matter what you do it will never be ‘good enough.’
The past is over and you did the best you could with what you knew at the time. If the past evokes memories of painful experiences for you, release the memories and find forgiveness for yourself and/or others. This doesn’t mean you condone these behaviors. It means you release the memories and feelings to find your own inner healing and peace.
Many methods exist that contribute to staying in balance and harmony. Practicing meditation as a daily ritual, reading, exercising, walking, or creating a sacred space where you can spend time feeling a sense of renewal and refreshment are all methods that take you away from focusing on ‘what is wrong’ to seeing yourself as having ‘control of your life.’
What you pay attention to increases as you give energy to your thoughts. Thoughts of peace, love, and abundance increase inner healing and peace and lead to living lives that feel more balanced and harmonious.
People have used journaling for many years in order to release emotions and make sense of what is going on. This journal or notebook is for your eyes only and allows you to say anything you want without anybody seeing it except you. Once expressed, emotions tend to dissipate and you will find they are released through this exploration. If this process doesn’t totally release them the first time, repeat the exercise.
We are part of nature and when we re-connect with the natural world we touch our inner self/ spiritual connection to something more. That something more is our connection to God. When we feel connected to God we recognize our place in the world and feel a sense of peace and harmony and that ‘all is right in our world.’
So take back control of your life and be intentional about experiencing inner peace daily. Engage in routine activities that will calm your emotions and keep you in a constant place of relaxation.
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