Are you a victim of self-sabotage?
Warning! I have seen self-sabotage stumble my subscribers again and again, so I thought about writing a quick email to ensure that none of you end up being an unwitting victim of self-sabotage.
Here are 3 phrases you may say that hint you could be a victim of self-sabotage.
First, “I can’t control this situation.”
Before you make any attempts to fix your problems, you convince yourself that you won’t’ win. Why? Because you can’t control all aspects of your situation. You may even overthink because you are afraid and only see failure as the end result. This tragic mindset makes you assume the worst and will only lead to negative experiences.
If you only think about what can go wrong, you are setting yourself up to experience only what can go wrong. Instead, you have to focus on tackling obstacles that stand in front of you with the mindset of an overcomer. Especially with your marriage. If you hesitate to get the help you need for your personal healing because you are scared to fail, then you might be a victim of self-sabotage.
Second, “I can just live with things the way they are.”
You love things to be consistent in every area of your life. Instead of striving to improve your situation, you choose to just figure out how to live with your current situation because you know what to expect. Even if it doesn’t feel good.
When you stay in your comfort zone, you are choosing repetition over true breakthroughs. This limits yourself and your marriage. You refrain from pushing through obstacles and reaching your full potential and level of joy God has for you.
Third, “I wish my life/or marriage was like theirs.”
Do you find yourself comparing yourself and your marriage to other people? Then you spend your time feeling bad or beating yourself up because your life isn’t like theirs. Comparing yourself to others will not encourage you to improve your life. It will only make you feel worse about your situation and lower your self-esteem.
The truth is many wives continue to believe that the “grass is always greener”. After experiencing some level of pain in your marriage you start to focus on or envy someone else’s relationship. You begin to believe you would be happier with someone else or by yourself.
Are you a victim of self-sabotage?
If you are, don’t worry. It is still not too late! You can still turn things around now.
All you have to do is to focus on your positive qualities and blessings God has already given you. Remind yourself of everything that God has already provided for you and the gifts your husband possesses. Write down your positive qualities and what makes you and your husband a power couple.
Refuse to compare yourself to other people. God created you uniquely to accomplish a specific purpose. You won’t accomplish anything that God has ordained for you if you strive to be someone he didn’t create you to be.
The grass is not greener. If someone’s marriage looks better than yours, remember, what you feed will grow. Pour into yourself in your marriage so that it will grow and be healthy.
Of course, it is easier said than done, but it CAN be done.
I want to see you succeed, so I hope that this email has been useful in helping you identify if you are a victim of self-sabotage.
If you are not a victim, congratulations, and good for you!
But, if you are like many women that are struggling with self-sabotage, then my class “The unspoken secret to experiencing peace during a tough season of marriage” would be perfect for you!
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Stay Blessed Sis!
Arrettres Hollins
P.S. If you need help overcoming self-sabotage, then my masterclass “The unspoken secret to experiencing peace during a tough season of marriage” is for you
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