Yes, I said it. Stop telling people that you got married for better or worse when you really have no intention of staying when things get worse. In actuality, you will stay until you get tired of not getting things your way.
This message is not for women that are being abused. If you are being abused, you need to get out and get help. Your physical safety is your priority and you were not designed to be someone’s punching bag. This also isn’t for you if your husband is a repeat cheater. That’s an entire message that I can’t dive into right now.
Why are they screaming divorce? Because he doesn’t do the things she wants him to do. He has changed. You have two different views of marriage. He leaves his clothes on the floor. He doesn’t agree with you and follows your instructions. The list goes on and on. for reasons why wives are “putting their husbands out” or “filing for a divorce”. (Read Matthew 19:4-6)
Marriage is a covenant. You made a covenant with God. Marriage is not a contract you can destroy because of your “feelings”. Or because things are not going your way. When you commit to being married for better or worse, this includes the good as well as the bad. You work through it all. Everything.
As you both mature, you will continue to change. Change is good. Marriage is learning how to mature and giving each other the grace and room to grow. Life is an ongoing cycle of becoming the person God has created them to be.
Marriage is about two different people becoming one. It’s about putting God first and learning how to be more like Christ. Two people that are growing and maturing while learning to honor God through their marriage. Being intentional about staying connected and falling in love over and over again. Marriage is work.
If you are going to honor God in your marriage, then do that. But, don’t mix the two. You will never have peace in your home when you are entertaining two opposing rulers….your flesh vs. God.
Get with God today! Repent for sinning against God’s instructions by focusing only on your desires. Learn to live in peace with your spouse. Get the professional help you need to make your marriage an example of Christ’s love here on earth.
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Stay blessed Sis!
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