Marriage is NOT for the weak. This is what my friends and I normally say when we speak about the challenges of love and marriage. Don’t get me wrong, it s a BEAUTIFUL thing. But, you have to be realistic. There are challenges. It doesn’t matter how hard you try, you and your husband will not always agree. Those disagreements “can” affect the level of peace you experience every day. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. Even if you feel like it’s impossible for you to experience peace in a bad marriage. You can experience constant peace. Let me show you how.
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Proverbs 18:21 says, The power of life and death is in your tongue. Even the casual covenants you speak in those moments of frustration and anger. What is a casual declaration? It’s those things you say aloud that you are not really paying too much attention to. It’s those subtle remarks you casually say. Sometimes you say these things out of habit without really thinking about it. Sometimes it’s in the heat of the moment while trying to express yourself.
What are you declaring over your marriage? If you continue saying things like “My marriage is horrible.”, “I’m married to the wrong man.” or “We are never on the same page.”, that’s all you will experience.
Choose to use the power God has given you to shift the trajectory of your marriage.
Time out for waiting for things to change before you speak life over it. You can’t see it in the natural before you speak it. You have to declare and decree what you want to see in your life and marriage.
Use the same tenacity you used with your career. You didn’t settle for less than your goal. You are a high-achieving wife in every area of your life. Now is not the time to settle for what the enemy has presented to you.
It’s commonly thought the less you fight, the healthier your marriage. As a matter of fact, both researchers and counselors seem to agree some conflict is not only inevitable, it’s normal. And it could even be good for your marriage.
Conflict is simply a disagreement. It’s a temporary inability to see eye-to-eye. Sometimes it involves strong feelings. But in no way is conflict some kind of sign of dysfunction. It’s just gonna happen, even in the healthiest of marriages.
Your husband is not your enemy. You’re on the same team. At the end of the day, you both share the same goal: Resolve the issue at hand and keep your marriage strong.
You two are one. Regardless of how you feel during difficult seasons, you have been joined together. Your union is under attack by satan. His plan is to destroy your marriage because it is supposed to represent Christ’s love for the church. People are supposed to be drawn to Christ through your marriage.
Do not be dismayed. God has given you authority over the devil.
This requires you to dig deep and be extremely self-aware. Identify 3-4 activities that bring you peace and incorporate them into your life as often as possible. You should have daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly activities that enhance your mental, spiritual, and physical peace.
God instructs us to put on the full armor of God! The sixth piece of armor that Paul discusses in Ephesians 6 is the sword of the spirit, which represents the Word of God. For a Roman soldier, the sword was an offensive weapon against enemies. When sharpened, the sword could pierce through just about anything, making it a very dangerous tool.
You must be intentional about using your most powerful weapon to annihilate every single plot and scheme of the enemy.
Psalm 1 and Psalm 119 instruct us to meditate on the word of God. Schedule at least 5 minutes you will meditate on the word of God every single day.
Use the following scriptures for your time of meditation to enhance your level of peace:
2 Corinthians 13:11 – Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice! Strive for full restoration, encourage one another, be of one mind, and live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you.
1 Peter 3:11 – They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it.
Philippians 4:6-7 – Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Psalms 4:8 – In peace, I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, LORD, make me dwell in safety.
2 Thessalonians 3:16 – Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.
Isaiah 12:2 – Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The LORD, the LORD himself, is my strength and my defense; he has become my salvation.”
Colossians 3:15 – Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.
Want to reignite romance back into your marriage, have your husband love you the way you want to be loved, and eliminate conflict in your marriage before it even starts?