After the betrayal of infidelity, you will most likely struggle with anxiety, chronic stress, depression, painful recurring memories, anger/rage, feeling triggered, humiliation, and a lack of trust. It will have you asking does the pain of infidelity ever go away? The answer to the question is a resounding YES! These emotions are not a part of your destiny! The life of Elijah is the perfect example to renew your hope.
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I want you to reflect on the life of Elijah in 1 Kings 18. Elijah was a mighty prophet during a turbulent time in Israel’s history. The nation had turned away from the Lord to worship Baal, and King Ahab had formed an alliance with Sidon by marrying their princess, Jezebel.
He had just won a great victory against the prophets of Baal on Mount Carmel. In the next chapter, Elijah is fleeing from the wrath of Jezebel and fearing for his life. He is feeling defeated, depressed, and hoping to die. Elijah even appears to be depressed and at least passively suicidal!
He came to a broom bush, sat down under it, and prayed that he might die. “I have had enough, Lord,” he said. “Take my life; I am no better than my ancestors”(1 Kings 19:4). Of course, the Lord ministered to Elijah and the rest of the story is an amazing recovery for the prophet Elijah.
I bring this story up because, just like Elijah, you were probably minding your own business. Doing your best to serve God through your marriage. Then the enemy attacked your life via. infidelity. Now he is trying to steal your destiny by using the pain of infidelity to keep you stagnant.
Just like Elijah, the enemy does not like that you are committed to the covenant you made with your husband and God. So he wages war against you and your family.
The enemy knows the great command that is on your life AND your lineage! For the next four generations, your lineage will perform mighty acts for God.
The enemy wants to kill this diving purpose!
There are three main points that stood out to me.
The nation had turned away from the Lord to worship Baal, and King Ahab had formed an alliance with Sidon by marrying their princess, Jezebel.
In the midst of this rebellion, There were people there who still served God.
The story of Elijah can be a comfort and an encouragement to us. Being a strong person of God does not mean that we will never feel discouraged, but rather, it means looking to God when faced with adversity. Elijah felt alone and didn’t understand God’s plan, but he still searched for God. In return, he constantly saw God’s power displayed in his weakness.
During your season, you must trust that God is not only fully aware of your situation, but, he has also anointed you for such a time as this.
He stood on the promises of God. Even when it seemed like he was the only person willing to obey God.
Even when his life was threatened by his enemy.
He still chose to push through the emotional or mental pain, and obeyed God!
Soon after, King Ahab died and was succeeded by his son, Ahaziah. After Ahaziah suffered an injury, he sought the assistance of the god of Ekron to see whether he would recover. Elijah confronted him for rejecting the Lord, which made him angry. In his rage, Ahaziah then sent a captain with fifty men to kill Elijah:
The prophet was seated on a hilltop when he found him. He said, “Man of God, the king commands you, ‘Come down.’” Elijah answered the captain, “Well, if I am a man of God, may fire come down from heaven and consume you and your fifty men.” And fire came down from heaven and consumed him and his fifty men. — 2 Kings 1:9-10
This happened a second time; the king sent fifty men, and they were again struck down with fire. A third commander came, and he begged Elijah to spare the lives of him and his men. The Lord told Elijah not to be afraid of them, so he went down with them to the king. He told the king that because he turned away from the Lord, he would die. True to Elijah’s warning, the king was struck down by the Lord.
John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
This means there will be times in your life when your heart will want to be troubled and you will want to be afraid. But, peace is your birthright and is freely given to you.
Psalm 29:11 NIV – “The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace. ”
Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Know that God is more than able to heal you from the pain of infidelity.
Most importantly, get help!
You don’t have to do this alone! Isolation is a trick of the enemy! Identify a community that will support you during this journey.
Just like Elijah, the Lord used an angel to minister to Elijah during his darkest moments. He fed Elijah and encouraged him to press on. Keep moving. The journey will be tough, but, there is an expected end of blessings for you!
Ask the Lord to open your eyes to the people he has or will place in your life to help you take your healing to the next level and avoid unnecessary obstacles. The pain of infidelity is NOT a part of your destiny!
Stay Blessed Sis!
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