Daily acts of self-care are mandatory for the mental and emotional health of busy wives.

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Life kind of feels like it’s been turned upside down.  Things aren’t how they used to be.  You are accustomed to controlling your environment, tackling your hefty to-do list, and solving the problems of everyone around you all while wearing heels and a flawless face.  I get it.  But, what about what’s going on inside of you?  A lack of self-care will always lead to an emotional or mental breakdown?

But, when is the last time you allowed yourself to just breathe.  When is the last time you disregarded your hefty to-do list and watched the wind blow?  Filling your calendar is not what God wants you to do.  Staying “busy” could be a distraction that prevents you from enjoying quality time with your family, friends, and even quiet time with God.  

Stop being so hard on yourself. 

Allowing yourself to sit quietly and just breathing is a part of self-care.  We get so busy trying to do everything that we never get to enjoy everything.  Always thinking 10 steps ahead will keep you from fully engaging in and embracing the step you are on.


There is grace for your current step. 

There is a level of joy you are supposed to experience right here, right now.  In the midst of everything that is going on in the world right now, there is a settling within yourself that must happen.  

Vacations are nice, weekends are beautiful, going out to eat is amazing.  But, what about the gift of just sitting in your living room with your family enjoying each other’s company.  

Yes, you can go non stop and do it all while “I’m Every Woman” by Whitney Houston plays in the background.  Why are you doing this?  Do you really have to run nonstop?  Settle yourself.  Learn how to turn your brain off long enough for you to just enjoy the moment.   

There isn’t a special crown in heaven for wives that never rested while here on earth. 

Applying extra pressure on yourself doesn’t earn you extra credit with God.  God reminds us of how he wants us to handle these situations.  “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble of heart; and you will find rest. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”  Matthew 11:28-30.

Let go of the unhealthy overload you keep adding to your list.

Make sure you are not misinterpreting ambition for playing god in your own life?  Sometimes your drive will have you pushing to accomplish things that only God can manifest for you. 

Sometimes you fill your to-do list out of nervousness.  Or you keep yourself busy because you feel guilty for allowing yourself to relax.

Busyness, for whatever reason you choose to do it,  is not healthy.   

Yes, the laundry needs to get done and dinner needs to be made.  Be mindful that you are not overextending yourself mentally or physically.   It isn’t healthy.

If your mind is racing, you can’t seem to think clearly and feel like the world is on your shoulders, you are doing too much.   Let Go!  

Set aside time daily to unwind and refuel.  Read your bible.  Listen to inspirational or uplifting music.  Read a book.  TAKE A NAP!!  

The point is to offer yourself grace by practicing self-care daily.  Don’t live for weekends and vacations.  Allow yourself to experience and enjoy each day by releasing your burdens to God and allowing him to refuel you.   Each day should include some sort of self-care.  You work hard and deserve a daily dose of love.

Stay Blessed Sis!

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