We’ve all been there ladies. Our husband did or did not do something he was supposed to do. He said something that bothered you. Something has occurred and you feel the burning need to let him know how you feel about it. But, then the dreaded conversation occurs and you see he is tuning you out. UGH! You talk louder. You talk longer. You cry, throw a fit, and practically spin in circles. You do any and everything you can think of to get a reaction out of him. Every attempt fails. He has checked out of the conversation. You feel ignored, defeated, unloved and unappreciated. Yes, your husband checking out of a conversation where you are pouring your heart out is wrong. But, I would love to share 4 ninja tricks to venting without your husband ignoring you.
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Ask him when is a good time for you two to speak. This makes him feel like he is in control of the conversation and makes it less threatening for him.
I don’t know how many times I can say this. Probably as many times as I fail in this area. lol But, if you want to have a productive conversation, your best option is to remain calm. Yelling raises the level of emotion in the argument. This fights against two people having a rational conversation. No yelling. No name calling.
Ladies! Do you want him to compare you to his momma? His ex-girlfriend? His female coworker? His sister? I believe your answer would be a resounding NO!!!!
If you are fussing about something your Boo has done that bothers you, focus on that specific topic. You know how we can be. Do not bring up what he did last month, last year or a decade ago. Especially if you have already resolved and forgiven him for those past mistakes.