Let me first start by saying this is not about husband bashing. Not at all. We love our husbands. This post is about you realizing your worth and value regardless of what is going on in your marriage.
I’ve been getting a lot of DM’s, calls and emails from women that are enduring a difficult season in their marriage. Because of this difficult season, they are taking things extremely personally. When you are at your worse, you doubt everything God says about you.
Now I’m not saying that you need to accept mistreatment or neglect from your spouse. If he is a repeat offender that continues to mishandle your heart, you need to have serious conversations and possibly create healthy boundaries.
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So let’s jump right on into the “Why your worth is not based on how your husband treats you.”
We are all selfish people that have to continually refocus and align our walk with God. Daily. Do we always get it right? NOPE. And we won’t always get it right. But, we are diligent pursuing what is right.
There are 3 things I need you to remember:
That’s it! Your beauty, value, and purpose are not contingent on your husband. It is solely based on God. You can’t earn it. It is not a matter of you being worthy of it. God has a divine purpose and plan for your life. You are special to him. You are unique and different from others because that is the way he made you.
Why is it important for you to know your worth? Once you know who you are, you will act differently. You will remain the same regardless of who interacts with you. When you know who you are, you act differently. You don’t sway because of the people around you. You don’t fall because your environment has shifted.
A doctor does not change his position simply because he is standing in Walmart. When someone passes out, he immediately goes into his role and does what he should do because he knows who he is. He doesn’t stand there looking confused because his surroundings are not accommodating his title. He remains a doctor. His knowledge and expertise are still with him.
Even when others are losing their minds and try to push him away from the scene because THEY don’t know who he is. He will stand tall and simply say “I’m a Doctor”. He will let those that are pushing against him know who he is. And what normally happens? They will then usher him to the front of the line to the person that needs his help.
What I need you to get this evening is that YOU are royalty. You are a child of a king. That does not change because of your surrounding or because others do not know who you are. Regardless of how they are trying to push you down or away from where you are trying to get, YOU STAND TALL and simply say “I am the child of the King. I am valuable. I am important. I am beautiful.”
You don’t lower yourself to accommodate someone else. You won’t shrink up so someone else feels good about themselves. You stand tall and remind yourself exactly who you are. Every time the enemy tries to fill your mind with lies, you stand tall and remind yourself who you are.
There is true power in knowing who you are and walking in it.
Scriptures to read and reflect on over the next 7 days:
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