When you said I do, you didn’t just gain a husband. You also gained his entire family and anyone that believes they are a part of his family. This includes play cousins, the neighbor down the street that ate dinner at their house every day and is now considered his sibling, and the uncle that no one is really quite sure how they are related. Regardless of how they are attached to your husband, what matters is how he feels about them. It would make for a fairytale if everyone got along and embraced you with open arms. But, as we all know, this isn’t always the case. Holidays, birthday parties, and family gathering take on an entirely different meaning when you have to engage with people that might not be very fond of you. But, it doesn’t have to be painful. Here are “Painless Ways To Deal With In-Laws That Don’t Like You.”
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It can be challenging to walk into a situation where you know people have preconceived opinions and expectations about you. Or, maybe they just don’t like that you are “taking” their son, brother or cousin away from them. It’s ok. You are not responsible for them. What you are responsible for is making sure you are representing God when you interact with them.
Talk to your husband about how you are feeling. Remember you two are in this together. Be honest but, gentle with your words. He will be able to give you feedback about the situation that you are unaware of. Family history, conflicts or insecurities are a couple things your husband should have a better understanding of. You might be amazed by the information that he shares with you.
Be consistent with in-laws regarding your united front.
Never have your husband speak for you if you have an issue with someone in his family. You are grown. No need to hide behind him.
They are battling their own demons.
Make sure your expectations are reasonable. You might want your in-laws to be SUPER loving and affectionate. But, maybe they weren’t raised like that and don’t know how to show that kind of love. Life is easier when you accept people for who they are instead of trying to change them. When you are constantly in “I need to fix them mode”, you are signing up for a battle that isn’t yours.
No borrowing money from in-laws. No giving keys to the house to family members. Sit down with your husband and come up with boundaries that work for both of you. When in-laws try to infringe or make their rules, your rules, stand firm. Don’t allow them to pressure or guilt you into accommodation their needs over your family needs.
Don’t feed the issue by responding with anger. It only fuels it. Especially if they are purposely doing things to irritate you. They want a negative reaction. Giving them a negative reaction only
This homework is only for grown women. Little girls won’t be able to do this. This assignment is going to take true maturity.
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