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(Video) 5 secrets to being a loving wife even when you are mad at him.

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Whoever created the term “Live happily ever after” obviously wasn’t have been married.   The concept of total marital bliss is very misleading.  Don’t get me wrong now.  You will have amazing times with your husband.  Sharing life with the man you love can be a dream come true.  But, be clear.  At times, it could feel like a nightmare.  Disagreements and misunderstandings are inevitable.  He will say something wrong, do something, or just BE plain old wrong.  LOL  You don’t have to allow this to affect how you love on him.  I am a witness.  Here are my “5 secrets to being a loving wife even when you are mad at him.”.

1. Accept that marriage isn’t a fairy tale.

Your husband is going to make mistakes.  He is not perfect.  Neither are you.   Once the newlywed bliss has lifted, reality will set in.  You are two different people with two different upbringing and expectations.  You will disagree.   There will be challenges.  Being in love with him does not eliminate the challenges.  It makes experiencing those challenges a little easier.   The sooner that you accept that your marriage will not be a 24 hour, 7 days a week fairy tale, the better off you will be.

2.  Is the fight really worth it?

Choose your battles wisely.  Sometimes you just have to let things go.  If it is not a life-changing, marriage shattering issue, leave…it…alone.  Stop before you open your mouth and ask yourself if your reaction is really worth it.  I used to fuss ALL the time because John would never put his dirty dishes INTO the sink.  He placed them on the counter right next to the sink.  This drove me crazy and I made sure he knew it every single time I saw a dish ON the counter.

It wasn’t until one day I was talking to a couple of women and one of them said her husband always leaves his dishes on the couch in the living room.  Then another one chimed in saying her husband is rarely home for dinner.  WOW!  Well, that kind of put it all into perspective.

Look……You can either hold your grudge or hold your man.   But, you can never do both!

3.  Get it out of your system.

When you are legitimately angry, you need to get it out of your system so it doesn’t turn into bitterness or resentment.  Let it go, girl!

  • Vent in a journal.
  • Pray and give it to God.
  • Go for a walk until you calm down.
  • Get with your circle of girlfriends that will help you process your frustration.

Whatever you need to do calm down, do it!  The more you hold on to it, the angrier you will become.

4. Tell him how you feel.

Men don’t think as we do.  They don’t see situations the way we do.  Your husband most likely doesn’t know why you are upset.  He probably doesn’t understand what the problem is.

Be calm.  If it is a deal-breaker, let him know.  Be rationale regarding your expectations.  You have to know where your Boo is right now.  Don’t expect him to do and say things that are way out of his grasp right now.  You wouldn’t fuss at a newborn baby because it can’t run right now.   You would handle the baby according to the level it is on.  The same thing with your husband.  Right now he might not be making 6 figures.  Don’t beat him up about that.  Be grateful for where he is, nurture and support him.  One day he might get there.  But, until then, appreciate him for where he is right now and support him as he continues to grow.

5. Treat him the way you would like to be treated.  

He probably didn’t mean to upset you.  Most men don’t walk around plotting ways to make their wives yell at them for hours.  Actually what normally happens is, they do something stupid and then stand there looking like a deer in headlights.  Don’t take his offense as a personal attack.  He most likely had absolutely NO INTENTIONS of getting in trouble.

You are also going to make mistakes.  It’s inevitable.  How would you like him to respond?  Would you like him to yell?  Give you the silent treatment?  Make you beg?  Withhold sex?  (Ladies, stop doing this to your man.  PLEASE!)

You need to get into the habit of responding the way you would want your husband to respond.

 

 

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2 thoughts on “(Video) 5 secrets to being a loving wife even when you are mad at him.

  1. Ajzha says:

    I THOROUGHLY ENJOYED THIS!!! My hunni and I just had a situation that lead to a conversation the next morning. We got through it and came out smoothly but with now knowing what you just explained, things could have probably gone in another/better direction. Thank you for this and I appreciate the few chuckles. I feel I will be going into my marriage a better woman.

    1. admin says:

      Thank you so much Ajzha 🙂 We all have those conversations that don’t go the way we expect. I just had one with my husband. lol Be encourage my dear. We are all in this together!

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